Be Grateful

Being grateful sounds so easy and effortless, but try being grateful through the difficult situations. Death, loss of a job, losing the promotion, a relationship breakup  can be some of the most difficult times to be grateful. It is in these times that we need to be reminded to be grateful for our experiences. It is difficult to see when you are in the middle of these experiences and the emotions are so raw but these are some of the experience that shape who we are. More importantly how we handle these experience and if we choose to learn from them.

In death we need to appreciate the time we Potted plant with words "May all your weeds be wild flowers"had with our loved one. Those moments when you truly connected with that person. The way they looked at you and made you feel, no one else could replace that experience. Those subtle moments and memories that have been engraved in you soul are indescribable and can never be replicated. Be grateful.

Loss of a job can bring hardship, despair and a feeling of inadequacy. There are so many emotions including anger, sadness, and frustration when one looses a job. For some people a job is how they identify themselves and who they are in this world. But really a job is just a way to make money to support you in being who you are in the world. A job does not define you as a person. You are defined by much more then just the way you make money. Your worth goes beyond the dollar bills in you pocket. A job is just a job. In a job you gain knowledge, experiences, and learn to work with different kinds of people.  These are all things that no one can take away from you. Be grateful.

Loosing that long awaited promotion can tear you down and make you feel a failure. This is one of those moments that can either tear you down or make you raise higher then you could have ever imagined. All of your hard work, long hours, and rubbing elbows with the right people, just to miss out on the promotion. You feel that it was all for nothing. No matter how hard you tried or how perfectly you did everything , it was all for nothing. But was it really, all for nothing? During this time you learned so much, you pushed yourself to go above and beyond what was expected of you, you were proud of your work, and you met people that you could reach out to in the future. There is a saying in Spanish, Lo que es para ti, aunque te quites; lo que no es para ti aunque te pongas “What is for you, even if you move out of the way; what is not for you, even if you stand in front”.  This promotion might not have been meant for you but everything you learned and were able to prove to yourself, can never be taken away. Be grateful.

Breakups can be the worst, especially when you felt that this person was “The One”. You felt that this was the only person that could ever understand you and accept you for who you are. This person was your only constant, they were your rock, your support, and your balance. A breakup nocks you down to your very core because this is the person that you are most vulnerable with, that you let all guards down with. I have always been a firm believer that all relationships are meant for you to learn who you are, and what you want and don’t want from a life partner. You will have so many amazing memories to share and experiences to learn from,  you will also have learned more about yourself  at the end of a relationship. Be grateful.

Take a moment to truly feel the emotions when you are in situations like this, get yourself together, rise up and then be grateful.